I would like my old life back I’m busy I have too much to do Things were feeling under control until this happened Many caregivers were thrust into that role by a sudden and unexpected diagnosis of someone who they love. Prior to that, they may have had a full life of relationships, occupations… Continue reading Primary Caregiver Emotions: Crisis of Identity
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Primary Caregiver Emotions: Resentment
Caregiver resentment is a feeling of unfairness or irritation Resentment often feels sarcastic and justice seeking Feelings of resentment can come on suddenly at the time of diagnosis or creep in over time. Resentment is often tied to a rising tide of unchecked disappointment. For the reluctant caregiver, caring for a relative more out of… Continue reading Primary Caregiver Emotions: Resentment
Primary Caregiver Emotions: Doubt and Confusion
Doubt and confusion are irrational thoughts that are the outgrowth of fear, powerlessness, overwhelm and guilt. In order to not be sucked into the vortex of doubt and confusion, it is important for the caregiver to become clear about what capabilities they have, establish contingency plans and available resource inventories. These are the worn-down caregivers… Continue reading Primary Caregiver Emotions: Doubt and Confusion
Primary Caregiver Emotions: Guilt
Caregiver guilt is the product of thoughts that they haven’t done enough for their loved one. It can be the flip side to resentment that the caregiver has for needing to devote so much time and energy to the person who has a diagnosis, unresolved issues with that person or others in proximity or comparing… Continue reading Primary Caregiver Emotions: Guilt
Primary Caregiver Emotions: Anger
Why is this happening to me? I am angry at the diagnosis, the medical team, at the people in my community and their platitudes, the advice or lack of support from my parents or family members (brother, sister in law, the lady in the checkout line at Target, insert here) This is not fair! No… Continue reading Primary Caregiver Emotions: Anger
Primary Caregiver Emotions: Denial
Denial (Disbelief and Shock) This is not the way this is supposed to be! There must have been a mistake There is no way that I am equipped to be caregiver! I can’t feel anything. This must be a dream and I need to wake up now How am I supposed to get everything… Continue reading Primary Caregiver Emotions: Denial
Primary Caregiver Emotions: Fear of the Present, Past and Future
Fear is generally the first shockwave right after receiving the devastating news. Fear is often tied to: a lack of education, resources, support, the caregivers own internal story around personal limitations, past and current circumstances, racing thoughts that cause them to forecast catastrophe. As fear implodes into either denial or worry, it can result in… Continue reading Primary Caregiver Emotions: Fear of the Present, Past and Future